By: Becca Barner

Lauren and I get asked this question quite a bit and thought it would be great to write an article about it. I was going to write about how our year has been, but we are going to do an episode next week all about the wonderful blessings of 2019. So, I’ll tell you about my favorite part this year. 

Just to give a little back story… My husband and I had been off social media for quite some time before I met Lauren. We had been radio silent for about three years but earlier this year we wanted to start sharing what God has done in our lives and being transparent with our closest friends and family. In May of this year, we got back on Facebook. But boy was it shaky and hard to be back on. We had a lot of opposition with…. You guessed it. Family. 

I shared information about my current health and how I am learning to trust God. I would always try to mention God’s sovereignty because that’s a word I never heard back in my old days of the “Word of Faith” movement. Then I also branched into making memes on Instagram under the pseudo name of Becca.Berean. Lauren messaged me back in July with the best massage I had ever gotten on Instagram. She told me how much she loved my memes and that I was a great graphic artist. Just thinking about this again makes my heart so happy. Totally smiling in the midst of writing this y’all. 

I quickly went over to her page and right away loved all the things she posted. Then I noticed she had a blog and podcast. I could tell that the podcast only had a few episodes and offered to be on if she had an opening for another testimony, I was totally available. She was so super kind and we scheduled right away. I was so super pumped to be sharing my testimony, a lot of the ladies at my church were praying for me about it. 

I was totally nervous the days leading into our first episode together. The episode was recorded just like an audio file, so we couldn’t see each other. But Lauren made me feel so comfortable and she has the most soothing voice ever. I had so much fun recording with her, so either later that day or the next day I texted her to let me know if she needed a full-time Co-host, I was available. That’s how it all started folks 😊 I’m so grateful to Lauren, if it wasn’t for her I wouldn’t have brushed up on my skills with photoshop, logos, blog writing, and I would never have started a podcast. It is such an honor and a blessing to be working with her, that’s why she is the best boss babe. A fun name I love to refer her to by.

Did you guys know that we have a couple of other podcasters under the Tulips and Honey Hub? Yep, I remember her telling me about her idea to have a network of other podcasters to provide more content with more biblical sound truth to more people. We have awesome podcasters, check them out HERE. Not only that but when I mentioned how I would love to write a book on suffering and children’s book, she right away investigated publishing information to help me or even creating a publishing company for us to be able to sell books. Seriously, I am overjoyed and grateful to God for bringing us together. She has sparked dreams that I thought were over in my life, all for His Glory. 

We have pretty much texted each other every day since our first episode and it’s odd to me if we don’t lol. (please don’t send hate mail for using this word lol) She became my best friend instantly. I haven’t even met her, yet God has brought us together in this awesome friendship. Little did Lauren know, that I have had the worst luck of having and keeping a best friend. 

She just texted me while writing this about how she’s excited to read this article and that I’m such a good writer. I don’t deserve any of this, I definitely do not deserve Lauren. Reminds me of that quote from RC Sproul where he says, “Why do good things happen to bad people?” That’s a perfect quote to express that thought. I am so inspired and encouraged by her, and although I’m a year older… I still look up to Lauren as a sister. It was totally worth waiting for 32 years to have finally found mine, my Sweet Tea Lauren.

Stay tuned HumbleBees because next week, we’ll get into more about some of the good from this year, as well as some of the trials that we faced together. We’ll also share what things we’ve got lined up for 2020. Lauren and I totally have to meet up…that’s going to be EPIC!!

Merry Christmas to all 

and to all a Goodnight,


– Becca

P.S. I am adding this scripture because it made me crack up. She and I are both clumsy and we need each other lol. It has been such a blessing to work, learn, pray, laugh, cry with you, bestie!

Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 ESV

‘Two are better than one because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone? And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken.” 


The Unity of Heretics

Unity is the Christianese version of the secular ‘tolerance’. We’re consistently told to maintain unity, the church must unite. I was even told, before becoming a believer, that the reason we weren’t seeing the dead raised, the blind seeing, the mute speaking, and the lame walking was because the church had become disunified. Rather than the obvious answer from 2 Corinthians 12:12, that those are the signs of an Apostle, to give credence to the inspired nature of their writing.

Perhaps we’ve gotten too good, here in America, at twisted things to fit our own agendas. Perhaps too many have become lazy, people pleasing, fools ready to accept every wind of doctrine. Most likely it’s that Biblical knowledge is so lacking, and when there is no sound doctrine Biblical understanding decays. In other words, we’re a herd of starving sheep. 

Let’s go back to the original meaning of heretic, found in our twisted scripture for today, Titus 3:10. Here Paul is exhorting Titus, and us as we read this verse, to reject a divisive man after the first and second warning. Heretic derives it’s meaning from the word in this verse, factious, translated divisive in other texts. A heretic, then, began with the meaning of one who divides.

I find the logic behind twisting unity in the Bible to be very unreasonable. On the one hand we’re told by the ecumenical, universalistic, crowd that this verse means we should reject anyone causing disunity. On the other hand, within the verse there is clear disunity between Paul and the man causing the problems. If we were supposed to be unified with all false versions of Christianity wouldn’t it make since for Paul here to say instead ‘warn your brother, unless it offends him. In which case, say nothing and continue in unity’. 

The body of Christ should be unified, and I would certainly never turn away from a brother or sister over secondary issues. However, and this is the key, when someone comes with a different gospel we must seperate ourselves after rebuking this person. Hopefully this rebuke will win the person back to the true Gospel of grace by faith in Christ alone. If not, we can not have unity with them. For what does light have to do with darkness? 

My heart has been truly grieved to see the lack of concern for the lost within the body of Christ. There seems to be two extremes, the first where the saved relish the lostness of the lost and enjoy wagging fingers in their direction. The second is where the saved ignore the lostness of the lost, preferring to be liked by them than to share the light within them. 

Neither of these is love for others, both is love for self. How is this possible? Perhaps I was just such a wretched sinner when God saved me, all I can see that is good in me is Christ. If not for Him, there would not be a single redeeming quality for me to boast in. I’ve always been good at serving others, but I’ve always been even better at bragging and boasting of my service. The wretchedness of my sin threatening to ruin my marriage, destroy my family, and kill my soul. Self love? No thanks. Christ in me, that is all there is to love. I praise God that He rescued me, wholly apart from anything in me that was deserving. For His glory alone! SDG

Sorry for that little tirade, it’s free of charge. Why is unity dangerous within Christianity today? There are many false doctrines being taught, whether it’s the works faith of Catholicism, Mormonism, and Jahovahs Witnesses, the Universalism taught in the NAR and mainline liberal churches, or the prosperity gospel which has found its way into almost every denomination. All of these teach a gospel that can not save. 

Have we become so cold, so calluse, or so fearful, that our heart doesn’t ache for these lost living in darkness? Do we have no desire for them to hear the true Gospel? If unity comes at the cost of a single soul, then the price is too high. This, beloved, is what happens when we fail to take the full counsel of Gods Word. It’s Reformation month, let us remember that men and women gave their lives to seperate from false doctrine, false teachers, and a false gospel. As always, brethren, be good Berean’s and study to show yourselves approved.