Are Friendly Calvinists an Endangered Species – Part 1

It’s no secret, dear ones, that the Reformed community has somehow managed to make a name for itself as, well, rude, arrogant, and ungracious. Ungracious? How is it possible that the group of believers that hold so tightly to the doctrines of Grace could act ungraciously? I’ve heard from several people over the last year that they agree with the doctrine, but struggle with the people professing it. So, for today’s episode we’re interviewing an Instagrammer who has done a great deal in changing that mindset. Not only are his posts purposefully reproachful of bad behavior on Social Media, but they’re edifying and encouraging to his followers. I hope others will see this, and follow FriendlyCalvinists example.


Throughout his time on Instagram the FriendlyCalvinist has remained behind the scenes, making his time online about Gods glory and not about himself. Due to this, much of what he talks to us about is breaking news of sorts. We were so honored to be a platform for him to continue teaching believers how to act online. It’s always such a blessing to talk with fellow believers about the work God is doing through them. The interview was nearly three hours long, but there was too much great content to cut it, so we divided it into two parts. Next Monday we’ll drop part 2 where we get more into the details of Social Media, answering our listeners questions, and Shenanigans.


Becca and I want to thank the FriendlyCalvinist for joining us on the program and sharing so much of his story with us. I hope you will all join me in praying for him, and his son, as they grow in the grace and the knowledge of the Lord. You can find the podcast on Podbean, Castbox, iHeart Radio, iTunes, Google Play, Stitcher, Spotify, and the video on YouTube. Please don’t forget to like, share, subscribe, and comment to help us reach more believers and nonbelievers with the truth of Gods Word. Our hope is to continue to edify and encourage the Church, while convicting the lost with the Law and Gospel. As always, beloved Brethren, be good Berean’s and study to show yourselves approved.

Author: lnhereford

I am a Christian, wife, mother, podcaster and homeschooler currently traveling the United States with my loving husband and darling daughter!

9 thoughts on “Are Friendly Calvinists an Endangered Species – Part 1”

  1. I think most of the Calvinist that come across as rude, arrogant and ungracious are perhaps those newly “initiated” Calvinist in the cage stage. For them everything else apart from 5 points is wrong and needs to be refuted. But with time I guess they grow out of the cage stage. Unfortunately, for most people their experience with Calvinists are with the “cage stagers.” I vbeen there before as a cage stage Calvinist and I think I understand.

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    1. I agree, my friend, and the FriendlyCalvinist addresses that in this episode too. I was really grateful for his answer, essentially explaining that those in the cage stage need to be discipled by their elders. I didn’t go through the same type of cage stage, I was so broken after God saved me that there was no room in my mind for arguing with others. I had to listen, and study, and pretty much relearn everything I had been taught in the false churches I spent so many years in. The Reformed doctrines came on slowly for me, as I learned Scripture.

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  2. Glad you spoke on this topic. I’ve also in the past written on cage stage Calvinist. May we be like Paul the Calvinist (Romans 9) but who is also a broken hearted evangelistic Calvinist (Romans 9:1-3)

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